Chicago Chronic Illness Therapy
Living with a chronic illness means carrying something most people cannot see. You might look fine on the outside while managing pain, fatigue, unpredictable symptoms, and the grief of a life that looks different than you planned. At Still Oak Counseling in Chicago, we work with adults navigating the emotional weight of chronic illness, including the anxiety, identity shifts, and relationship strain that come with it.
Meet Your Chicago Chronic Pain Therapists
For many people, a chronic illness diagnosis does not just change their body. It changes their relationships. The dynamic with a partner shifts when one person needs more care. Friendships quietly fade when you cancel too many times. Family members say the wrong thing, or nothing at all. And underneath all of it, there is often a history of trauma that the body has been carrying long before a diagnosis gave it a name.
My work with chronic illness focuses on what happens between people, and what happens inside them, when a long-term health condition enters the picture. Using EMDR, we can work with the ways trauma lives in the body and contributes to how you experience your symptoms, your relationships, and yourself. If your illness has left you feeling like a burden, like you have to manage everyone else's feelings about your diagnosis on top of your own, or like the person you were before is someone you no longer recognize, that is exactly the kind of work we do together. You do not have to keep carrying it alone.
Credentials: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR trained, Gottman Method Level 1 trained
Clientele: Adults and couples navigating chronic illness, trauma, relationship strain, and the identity shifts that come with long-term health conditions
Location: Chicago, IL 60602
Virtual therapy: Yes
Many of the clients I work with came to therapy because they couldn’t keep up the pace anymore. High-achievers who had always pushed through, met every deadline, and held everything together, until their body made that impossible. Chronic illness has a way of forcing a reckoning with patterns that were already costing too much.
My work with chronic illness sits at the intersection of burnout, anxiety, and identity. When your body stops cooperating, the story you have told yourself about who you are and what you are worth tends to unravel alongside it. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), we work with the parts of you that are still pushing, still criticizing, still convinced that rest has to be earned. The goal is not just to cope with your diagnosis. It is to build a different relationship with yourself inside of it.
Credentials: Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, IFS Level 2 trained, EMDR trained
Clientele: Adults navigating autoimmune disorders, chronic pain, hormonal conditions, and the identity shifts that follow diagnosis
Location: Chicago, IL 60602
Virtual therapy: Yes
Examples of Chronic Illnesses We Work With
Autoimmune disorders (lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, Hashimoto's, Crohn's disease, MS)
Chronic pain conditions (fibromyalgia, migraines, chronic back pain)
Endometriosis and PCOS
Chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS)
Diabetes (Type 1 and Type 2)
Long COVID
Inflammatory bowel disease (IBD)
Ehlers-Danlos syndrome
Any ongoing condition that impacts your daily life and well-being
How Chronic Illness Therapy Can Help
Process the grief and identity shifts
When your body changes, so does your sense of self. You might grieve the person you were before diagnosis, or the future you imagined. Therapy gives you space to acknowledge these losses without judgment. We'll help you reconnect with who you are now, not despite your illness, but as a whole person learning to navigate a new reality with compassion.
Manage the anxiety and uncertainty
Chronic illness comes with a lot of unknowns. How will I feel tomorrow? What if my symptoms flare up? What if people don't believe me? This constant vigilance is exhausting. In therapy, we'll work on calming your nervous system, challenging catastrophic thinking, and building tools to help you feel more grounded even when your body feels unpredictable.
Navigate complex emotions and relationships
It's hard to ask for help. It's frustrating when people don't get it. You might feel guilty for canceling plans, angry at your body, or worried about being a burden. Therapy helps you untangle these emotions, set boundaries without guilt, and communicate your needs to partners, family, and friends in ways that strengthen rather than strain your relationships.
Rebuild your sense of control and meaning
When so much feels outside your control, it's easy to lose sight of what matters to you. We'll work on identifying what you can influence, letting go of what you can't, and creating a life that feels meaningful even with limitations. You deserve a life that feels like yours, not one dictated entirely by your diagnosis.
What to Expect From the Therapy Process
Starting therapy when you're already dealing with a chronic condition can feel like one more thing on your plate. We get it. Here's what working together typically looks like.
1. Initial consultation
We'll have a free 15-minute call to see if we're a good fit and answer any questions you have about the process.
2. First session
We'll talk about what brought you to therapy, what you're struggling with most, and what you're hoping will be different. No pressure to have it all figured out.
3. Building awareness
Early on, we'll work on connecting the dots between your physical symptoms, emotional patterns, and the stories you tell yourself about living with illness.
4. Developing coping strategies
You'll learn practical tools for managing anxiety, setting boundaries, and being kinder to yourself on hard days.
5. Deeper healing work
Using IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy, we'll explore the parts of you that are trying to protect you: the perfectionist who won't slow down, the critic who says you're not doing enough, the part that feels ashamed of needing help.
6. Ongoing support
Therapy is about helping you trust yourself more, feel less alone, and build a life where you're not just surviving, but actually living.
FAQs About Counseling for Chronic Illness
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Chronic illness therapy is mental health support specifically focused on the emotional, psychological, and relational impact of living with a long-term health condition. It is not about questioning whether your illness is real or whether your symptoms are valid. It is about helping you process the grief that comes with diagnosis, manage the anxiety that comes with unpredictable symptoms, and rebuild a sense of identity and meaning when your body has changed your life in ways you did not choose. At Still Oak Counseling, we work with both the internal experience of chronic illness and the relational strain it creates, using approaches like IFS and EMDR depending on what fits best for you.
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We work with adults living with a wide range of conditions, including autoimmune disorders like lupus, Hashimoto's, rheumatoid arthritis, and MS, chronic pain conditions like fibromyalgia and migraines, endometriosis and PCOS, chronic fatigue syndrome, Long COVID, Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, diabetes, and inflammatory bowel disease. If you are living with an ongoing condition that is affecting your mental health, your relationships, or your sense of self, you do not need a specific diagnosis to reach out. What matters is that your health is impacting your life and you want support.
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Research shows that people living with chronic illness are significantly more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and trauma responses than the general population. The body and mind are not separate systems. Chronic pain, fatigue, and unpredictable symptoms create a constant state of vigilance that is exhausting over time. Many people also experience grief after diagnosis, a loss of the future they imagined, and a shift in how they see themselves. On top of that, chronic illness often changes relationships. Partners, friends, and family members do not always know how to show up, and the emotional labor of managing other people's responses to your illness can be just as draining as the illness itself.
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Yes. EMDR in particular has research support for reducing the distress associated with chronic pain. This is not about convincing you that your pain is psychological. It is about addressing the way the nervous system processes pain signals, especially when trauma is part of the picture. Many people find that working through the emotional and psychological layers of their pain experience changes how they relate to it, even when the underlying physical condition remains. Therapy does not replace medical treatment. It works alongside it.
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Chronic illness puts real pressure on relationships. Partners often shift into caregiver roles without either person choosing that. Communication breaks down when one person feels like a burden and the other does not know what to say. Plans get canceled. Intimacy changes. If you are in a relationship where chronic illness is creating distance or conflict, therapy can help you both find language for what is happening and rebuild connection. We work with individuals navigating the relational impact of illness, and Meg also offers couples therapy for partners who want to work through this together.
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We use Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR as our primary approaches, depending on what fits your situation. IFS is particularly helpful for working with the parts of you that are still pushing past your limits, the inner critic that says you should be doing more, or the part that feels ashamed of needing help. EMDR is effective for processing the trauma that often underlies or accompanies chronic illness, including the experience of medical trauma itself. Many clients find that both approaches play a role at different points in their work with us.
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Yes, and we welcome it. Many clients find that therapy works best as part of a coordinated approach alongside their doctors, physical therapists, or other members of their care team. With your written consent, we are happy to share observations, provide updates, or participate in care coordination as needed. You do not have to choose between your medical care and your mental health care. They work better together.
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Finding the right therapist matters, especially when you are dealing with something as personal as chronic illness. These are signs we may be a good match:
You are tired of putting on a brave face and want a space where you can be honest about how hard things actually are
You want a therapist who understands that trauma and chronic illness are often connected
You are looking for more than surface-level coping strategies
You want support with both the internal experience of illness and its impact on your relationships
You value therapists who bring warmth and directness to sessions
The best way to know for sure is to schedule a free intro call. We will talk about what you are dealing with, what you are hoping therapy can do, and whether our approach feels like the right fit.
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Yes. All sessions are available virtually for anyone in Illinois. For people living with chronic illness, virtual therapy is often the more practical option. You do not have to manage a commute on a high-symptom day, and you can attend sessions from wherever you are most comfortable. Virtual sessions are structured the same way as in-person sessions and are just as effective.
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Still Oak Counseling is a private-pay practice. The fee for a 50-minute session is $250. We do not bill insurance directly, but we provide a superbill at the end of each month that you can submit to your insurance for out-of-network reimbursement. Many clients receive partial reimbursement this way. We have also partnered with a third-party service that can submit the superbill on your behalf. Before your first session, it is worth calling your insurance and asking what your out-of-network benefits look like for outpatient psychotherapy.